Rana Reider under investigation

[trevorp]

I don't understand why anyone with any intelligence would think it is ok for a (44 yr old & married) coach, in a position of authority & power, to have an affair with an18yr old athlete in their group. It clearly goes against ethical standards, just as it would if it were a GP and patient; teacher & pupil.

I'd be horrified if anyone thought it ok - it's extremely 'yukky' to say the very least - but if people are above the age of consent I think it's infinitely more preferable to allow them to make their own mistakes than for officialdom to micromanage their personal lives.

Think more along the lines of Blessing Okagbare...

Now, if he's been peddling bad wigs I agree the book should be thrown at him.

[philipo]

Gabriella

What you call ethical standards fluctuate over time with the many libertarian and authoritarian influences acting on society. Western society has generally been going in the libertarian direction for decades. I am old enough to remember a time when homosexual men risked jail and chemical castration. In the 1970s/80s PIE an organisation promoting a greatly reduced age of consent and a more relaxed approach to paedophilia gained support from the forerunner to Liberty and even got some public funding. These things, and many others, are hard to believe in todays society. But times change. Ethical standards change. Sometimes change overshoots and needs to go into reverse.

At present there are authoritarian forces resulting from feminism and wokeism which in this case is leading to a sports governing body supposedly expected to control relationships between adults, if one is a coach and the other is an athlete. Weird in society's history I would suggest. Whether this achieves anything desirable time will tell. That you regard this issue as against ethical standards, and beyond questioning by anyone of any intelligence, suggests to me that you don't think much. Rather is this thing practical, what are the consequences and where will it all end up. The Reider and other examples suggest a mess which is nobody's interest. As the saying goes "The road to hell is paved with good intentions"

One possible response to failing to nail someone who has in your opinion breached ethical standards is to throw more mud in the hopes that some of it, any of it, sticks. It is an insidious process. Trial by rumour.

goodness, Laps you keep saying things i heartily agree with, except you formulate your thoughts better than i do.

[Laps]

Gabriella

What you call ethical standards fluctuate over time with the many libertarian and authoritarian influences acting on society. Western society has generally been going in the libertarian direction for decades. I am old enough to remember a time when homosexual men risked jail and chemical castration. In the 1970s/80s PIE an organisation promoting a greatly reduced age of consent and a more relaxed approach to paedophilia gained support from the forerunner to Liberty and even got some public funding. These things, and many others, are hard to believe in todays society. But times change. Ethical standards change. Sometimes change overshoots and needs to go into reverse.

At present there are authoritarian forces resulting from feminism and wokeism which in this case is leading to a sports governing body supposedly expected to control relationships between adults, if one is a coach and the other is an athlete. Weird in society's history I would suggest. Whether this achieves anything desirable time will tell. That you regard this issue as against ethical standards, and beyond questioning by anyone of any intelligence, suggests to me that you don't think much. Rather is this thing practical, what are the consequences and where will it all end up. The Reider and other examples suggest a mess which is nobody's interest. As the saying goes "The road to hell is paved with good intentions"

One possible response to failing to nail someone who has in your opinion breached ethical standards is to throw more mud in the hopes that some of it, any of it, sticks. It is an insidious process. Trial by rumour.

[philipo]

No. Probably not.

Firstly I would heartily agree that in your example they are probably both making a mistake. However I come from a generation which was taught to be responsible for their own decisions and their own actions. An infinitely preferable situation in my opinion to the snowflake generation and their parents who seem to hold almost anyone else including educators and employers accountable in ways they are ill suited. I understand parental anxiety about this sort of thing having a daughter who is now double the age of the 18 year old. But I wouldn't expect a school to do anything useful about it. They would probably make things worse by sacking a good teacher, angering and alienating my daugther and embroiling the school in a minor scandal.

Is the Maths teacher 44 or 22 in this example? Why should age make a difference? Is this just another example of middle aged male bashing? If so the problem is on the way to being solved because on current trends there will be very few male teachers left in UK schools. The same might become true for Athletics coaches?

noted, that a well known movie actress says she wont perform in any film in which direction is by a male director. Weirdness is now becoming the norm.These days all policies on any social matters are taken to extremes.
If a 25 year old athlete allows herself to become involved in a physical relationship with her coach, and admits it quite happily, should the coach be punished,and/or disbarred from coaching any other athletes? Not something i would find acceptable.
However if regulations in athletics, through WA or national laws forbid any such relationships, irrespective of the athletes age,that is perhaps another matter.

[jjimbojames]

😳😳😬 Doesn’t sound good!

[Gabriella]

I don't understand why anyone with any intelligence would think it is ok for a (44 yr old & married) coach, in a position of authority & power, to have an affair with an18yr old athlete in their group. It clearly goes against ethical standards, just as it would if it were a GP and patient; teacher & pupil.

Reider is now also under investigation in the Netherlands. I am in contact with someone in the Dutch team who told me that they have uncovered a number of things, but are not releasing anything until they are confident they have a case. I will be careful what I write here, but suffice it to say, it is allegedly more than just sexual misconduct. Think more along the lines of Blessing Okagbare...

[Laps]

The relationships we are talking about would have been frowned upon in the past. Social stigma was a more immediate and powerful disincentive. Now there are institutional rules which schools, unversities, clubs etc grapple with, apparently with not much success if the number of cases reported is anything to go by and often with them ending up bearing the blame.

[trickstat]

If the pupil is under 18 and there is a physical relationship, the teacher is guilty of a sex offence whether he is 22 or 44. It is worth noting that many universities forbid their academic staff from sexual relationships with students, many of whom will be in their 20s.

I agree with Occasional Hope that any teachers, or for that matter coaches, who make a habit of such relationships are a source of concern.

[Occasional Hope]

What if our hypothetical teacher had made a habit of it, with a string of relationships with young girls he was teaching? What if it affected university references? And actually a better analogy with the RR case would be if he was teaching the student directly.

Personally I am glad times have changed and such unequal “relationships” are no longer acceptable.

[Laps]

The issue isn't what an 18 year old did or didn't choose to get up to. The issue is that a middle aged man in a position of some sort of authority over the 18 year old shouldn't be getting involved in such a way.

I presume if you had an 18 year old daughter at school doing A-levels in, for example, English, History and French who was in a relationship with, for example, a Maths teacher at the same school you wouldn't consider that an issue for the school?

No. Probably not.

Firstly I would heartily agree that in your example they are probably both making a mistake. However I come from a generation which was taught to be responsible for their own decisions and their own actions. An infinitely preferable situation in my opinion to the snowflake generation and their parents who seem to hold almost anyone else including educators and employers accountable in ways they are ill suited. I understand parental anxiety about this sort of thing having a daughter who is now double the age of the 18 year old. But I wouldn't expect a school to do anything useful about it. They would probably make things worse by sacking a good teacher, angering and alienating my daugther and embroiling the school in a minor scandal.

Is the Maths teacher 44 or 22 in this example? Why should age make a difference? Is this just another example of middle aged male bashing? If so the problem is on the way to being solved because on current trends there will be very few male teachers left in UK schools. The same might become true for Athletics coaches?

[trickstat]

trickstat

An 18 year old is an adult who can vote, drive, buy alcohol, and is two years beyond the age of consent. No sports governing body is likely to influence who they decide to have a relationship with. As for further cases these seem to rest on rumour and nothing else.

The issue isn't what an 18 year old did or didn't choose to get up to. The issue is that a middle aged man in a position of some sort of authority over the 18 year old shouldn't be getting involved in such a way.

I presume if you had an 18 year old daughter at school doing A-levels in, for example, English, History and French who was in a relationship with, for example, a Maths teacher at the same school you wouldn't consider that an issue for the school?

[philipo]

trickstat

Obviously the final paragraph, my comment about safeguarding is relevant to Reider and the athletes coached by him. UKA attempts to influence this matter have been ineffective and in my opinion are undesirable anyway. An 18 year old is an adult who can vote, drive, buy alcohol, and is two years beyond the age of consent. No sports governing body is likely to influence who they decide to have a relationship with. As for further cases these seem to rest on rumour and nothing else. The censorious Woke may want to cancel just about anybody or anything they take a dislike to but due process and the innocent until proven guilty principle still apply in the real world, just.

spot on Laps.

[Laps]

trickstat

Obviously the final paragraph, my comment about safeguarding is relevant to Reider and the athletes coached by him. UKA attempts to influence this matter have been ineffective and in my opinion are undesirable anyway. An 18 year old is an adult who can vote, drive, buy alcohol, and is two years beyond the age of consent. No sports governing body is likely to influence who they decide to have a relationship with. As for further cases these seem to rest on rumour and nothing else. The censorious Woke may want to cancel just about anybody or anything they take a dislike to but due process and the innocent until proven guilty principle still apply in the real world, just.

[trickstat]

While I think you have made some good points there, I cannot see how any of it has anything whatsoever to do with the topic being discussed.

[philipo]

Well said laps. My copious response to your post is unapproved